Vomit is done to get rid of what makes you sick inside. You start feeling better afterward, when it’s all done. Doing it sucks, but you’ll feel better later.
Todd might remind her about when they first met… she was still pretty angry at the world, and lashed out a few times, even when Todd was being kind.
And Amanda is on her own journey as well. Those are experiences Selkie is very familiar with, and it might put Tehk’s aggression into perspective for her.
While I agree with the general sentiment, I also believe that some folks are more deserving than others.
You get what you give with me. In this case Tek wouldn’t get any more help until he apologizes. Everyone has issues, you don’t get to marginalize someone else’s feelings or problems because you think you got it worse.
Obviously this is a little intense for them at this age, but it’s never too early to learn that our actions have consequences. Children are smarter than we give them credit.
The fine line between putting good in the world and heading down the path of being a doormat. There is a difference, I suppose, between putting good in the world and doing stuff to just appease people and avoid confrontation. Setting boundaries is always good. Sometimes the relationships with people that don’t have anyone else are the hardest to set boundaries for though. A lot of people get sucked into the mindset of “just a little bit more”, “I can be the good in their lives that changes them”, or other similar thought patterns.
I’m thinking this is gonna be expanded on with Selkie talking some of it out with Amanda. Amanda possibly reminding her of how she used to be and how they both have grown. I think this feeling she has about Tekh though will ultimately turn from hate or disdain to pity. She might not ever forgive him for his actions. But she will accept who he is. That being said she did very well not letting her anger control her.
Helping people when they don’t appreciate it is NOT always a good thing to do. If you overstep boundaries, the reactions can have long-term detrimental effects. Been there, done that, suffered years of abuse. I don’t recommend it.
While I agree with Todd on how to view the situation of her answering a request for aid a more important conversation need to be had about how to maintain a healthy boundary with those whose Coping mechanisms are toxic to those around them. Empathy is all well and good but if not handled correctly those suffering can do a lot of harm and the idea of saying “I don’t want to be around you” is not a cruel or evil stance to have towards someone suffering with such tendencies. If there behaviour is hurting you, you can walk away and not help. Long term it’s better for both parties as those behaviours can take a long time to break at the best of times and long term habits with an individual can make relapses easer just due to familiarity.
You make me laugh. The worst thing you can think of to do to your enemy is feed him peaches. Like, I know they’re allergic and stuff, but it sounds so adorable for a threat.
Maybe so, young Nei Li, but consider this:
Vomit is done to get rid of what makes you sick inside. You start feeling better afterward, when it’s all done. Doing it sucks, but you’ll feel better later.
Todd might remind her about when they first met… she was still pretty angry at the world, and lashed out a few times, even when Todd was being kind.
And Amanda is on her own journey as well. Those are experiences Selkie is very familiar with, and it might put Tehk’s aggression into perspective for her.
“Are yous fulls of craps?”
Er, not you, Katrina, I was quoting…
I’m pretty sure Amanda’s journey felt like vomit sometimes too to Selkie. …and I’m not talking about the results of the motion sickness.
While I agree with the general sentiment, I also believe that some folks are more deserving than others.
You get what you give with me. In this case Tek wouldn’t get any more help until he apologizes. Everyone has issues, you don’t get to marginalize someone else’s feelings or problems because you think you got it worse.
Obviously this is a little intense for them at this age, but it’s never too early to learn that our actions have consequences. Children are smarter than we give them credit.
Just please keep the matches away from them.
The fine line between putting good in the world and heading down the path of being a doormat. There is a difference, I suppose, between putting good in the world and doing stuff to just appease people and avoid confrontation. Setting boundaries is always good. Sometimes the relationships with people that don’t have anyone else are the hardest to set boundaries for though. A lot of people get sucked into the mindset of “just a little bit more”, “I can be the good in their lives that changes them”, or other similar thought patterns.
It isn’t hard when they act like assholes.
Eh, kid ain’t wrong. If doing right were always pleasant, the world wouldn’t be in such a state today.
I’m thinking this is gonna be expanded on with Selkie talking some of it out with Amanda. Amanda possibly reminding her of how she used to be and how they both have grown. I think this feeling she has about Tekh though will ultimately turn from hate or disdain to pity. She might not ever forgive him for his actions. But she will accept who he is. That being said she did very well not letting her anger control her.
Helping people when they don’t appreciate it is NOT always a good thing to do. If you overstep boundaries, the reactions can have long-term detrimental effects. Been there, done that, suffered years of abuse. I don’t recommend it.
While I agree with Todd on how to view the situation of her answering a request for aid a more important conversation need to be had about how to maintain a healthy boundary with those whose Coping mechanisms are toxic to those around them. Empathy is all well and good but if not handled correctly those suffering can do a lot of harm and the idea of saying “I don’t want to be around you” is not a cruel or evil stance to have towards someone suffering with such tendencies. If there behaviour is hurting you, you can walk away and not help. Long term it’s better for both parties as those behaviours can take a long time to break at the best of times and long term habits with an individual can make relapses easer just due to familiarity.
Welcome to Kantian ethics, Selkie.
Just because someone else chose to put bad into the world, doesn’t mean you didn’t put good into it.
Oh Selkie!
You make me laugh. The worst thing you can think of to do to your enemy is feed him peaches. Like, I know they’re allergic and stuff, but it sounds so adorable for a threat.
And if that doesn’t work, we could always throw him into a volcano.
The Strange Case of Dr. Terrorhammer and Ms. Selkie? Or “The Mystery of the Pile Of Ash.” Maybe “Thekky Mor’Kama is Missing.”