Now I want Amanda to hug Selkie, and then said “This is not a hug, I am recreating the fighting dreams”… not going to happen but we would get big warm and fuzzies from it.
She may not be cheering Selkie up, but by golly, she’s actually trying! That strikes me as huge progress from where she was when we first met her character. Kinda gets ya… right there…
Who brought these onions?! (sniffle)
It’s true though. I still get those anxiety dreams where I get told I never actually graduated college and I have to go back and do it all again, TEN YEARS LATER.
I think for a lot of folks hell, crap and sometimes damn is either not considered swear words or they are “soft” enough they get a pass.
I was also reading that many parents are even encouraging their children to speak openly and honestly when they are home or when the situation is appropriate.
I’ve noticed there were several times one or the other have sworn mildly and have not been chastised for it.
Nah. Parentals are just caught up in their own convo. That, or hell isn’t considered a swear in that household. S&K did have an entire episode in Hell after all.
As a parent, I’m ok with hell as long as it’s not malicious, like “you’re going to hell/go to hell.” Dreams where you beat yourself up are Hell, so its used appropriately imo. But then I’m pagan, so maybe that influences my view on it.
Yeah, I discourage my kids from habitually cursing in front of me as it would possibly make it easier to slip up in front of other adults (which could be bad for my kids if they get misjudged), but it’s not something I’d discipline a child for. Too often they hear it from me. I tried to clean it up after they were born…but road rage, smashed thumbs, and dropped cupcakes happen.
sympathy is all you can do for bad dreams. Wake up screaming 3-4 times a week or drenched in sweat because you were fighting all night… never fun. The worst is when not only the sounds but the smells and tastes come back those are the worst…
Best solution I’ve found to deal with bad dreams is to practice with my imagination while I’m awake. Just imagine yourself like you’re the star of your own crazy anime. Doing whatever feels the most ‘right’ and ‘natural’ for yourself. That way, you go to sleep…
Ah, a relaxing walk down the street. Oh dear. A bunch of angry guys with bats with nails in them. They want to beat me up? Alright. *casually picks up a parked stretch limo by it’s front axle and sets it on shoulder* Now I’ve got something to beat -them- up with.
… I woke up just as I was starting my first swing, so, can’t tell ya how it turned out.
Sorry Selkie, help doesn’t always feel good. One of the biggest things people need to get there head around with mental heath and such is its pretty much like a burn scar. it may fade a bit but its always there its going to be super sensitive and not fun to look at but you can get the a place where its not a big deal anymore. Too many people get stuck in very bad coping mechanisms because there goal is to utterly remove the effects or avoid thinking about the problem all together. And Like treating a burn, that just makes things worse. Mental infections are just as bad a real ones.
Or, maybe they are worse. Lots of my infections just heal themselves without any intentional intervention of my conscious mind. Mental stuff, meh, always requires my full conscious and intentional intervention. Meh! Elementary school teachers; the root of most neuroses.
Ooof school teachers, my lived experienced makes me wish they had not abolished physical punishment. Being hit is a hell of a lot easier to parse then the continuous gasslighting and emotional manipulation.
Todd is very arguably the best dad in web comics. … with Blaine (Amber’s) and Tom (Annie’s dad) being, arguably, the worst (wurst?). (Exception made for Faye’s dad- he’s dead- …but I wish we had a resurrect spell, so we could kill him for what he did to Faye.)
Are you talking about QC, right? As far as what was shown, Faye’s dad was a decent father to her before he took his life. He had to be holding back some pretty big demons to be struggling with mental illness and not be taking it out on his family as many people do in those situations. I would not call that being a shitty parent (even though his death harmed the people who loved him), but it is terrible and tragic. I think it is actually worse when a parent chooses to take out their crazy crap via abusing their kids versus stepping out of the picture (be it suicide or just leaving)—especially if they know their children have other people who love them and will look out for them.
It’s good to see these two getting along. I worry for Andi, though. Her potential boss either is a excited to meet another runner (and Andi is reading the situation properly), or she has major issues with boundaries. Not sure if that is someone that would be awesome to work for if you have a kid.
You know? That IS helping. That’s some first class sistering, Amanda. Simple empathy is treasure.
Now I want Amanda to hug Selkie, and then said “This is not a hug, I am recreating the fighting dreams”… not going to happen but we would get big warm and fuzzies from it.
She may not be cheering Selkie up, but by golly, she’s actually trying! That strikes me as huge progress from where she was when we first met her character. Kinda gets ya… right there…
Who brought these onions?! (sniffle)
Damn it all to Heck!! I’ve got onion ninjas slicing onions here, as well! How to they do that?
Hydrochloric acid in the onions causes to O-ring seals for my eyes to start leaking ocular fluid. It is most distressing. …filthy rotten Ninjas!
It’s true though. I still get those anxiety dreams where I get told I never actually graduated college and I have to go back and do it all again, TEN YEARS LATER.
50 years later, I can’t remember where the classrom is or how long since I went to class or whether it’s the only one I’ve been missing.
For me it’s finals and I realize there’s one class I completely forgot about the whole semester.
Mine is the one I didn’t show up for all semester and I’m wondering if a 100 on the final is enough to pass the class. Graduated 13 years ago.
Oh, I know that dream! Still gives me cold chills 40 years later. The problems with being a disorganized overachiever.
I think for a lot of folks hell, crap and sometimes damn is either not considered swear words or they are “soft” enough they get a pass.
I was also reading that many parents are even encouraging their children to speak openly and honestly when they are home or when the situation is appropriate.
I’ve noticed there were several times one or the other have sworn mildly and have not been chastised for it.
College isn’t such a bad place to return to. High school, On the other hand,, sucks…. The naked at school dreams are the worst.
I presume that Amanda is out of earshot — saying hell without having parental units jumping down her throat.
Nah. Parentals are just caught up in their own convo. That, or hell isn’t considered a swear in that household. S&K did have an entire episode in Hell after all.
As a parent, I’m ok with hell as long as it’s not malicious, like “you’re going to hell/go to hell.” Dreams where you beat yourself up are Hell, so its used appropriately imo. But then I’m pagan, so maybe that influences my view on it.
Yeah, I discourage my kids from habitually cursing in front of me as it would possibly make it easier to slip up in front of other adults (which could be bad for my kids if they get misjudged), but it’s not something I’d discipline a child for. Too often they hear it from me. I tried to clean it up after they were born…but road rage, smashed thumbs, and dropped cupcakes happen.
sympathy is all you can do for bad dreams. Wake up screaming 3-4 times a week or drenched in sweat because you were fighting all night… never fun. The worst is when not only the sounds but the smells and tastes come back those are the worst…
You are what, 8 years old? How you know they never stop?
Because she’s 8, and Amanda, and therefore already knows everything worth knowing.
Seriously, that’s some solid bonding going on without them even realizing it 😀
Wrong. The dreams stop at six AM when you get hauled out of bed. Then it’s a new nightmare.
What fresh hell is this?
Ha, haha! Made me laugh. It’s true, the morning after a nightmare is especially rough.
Best solution I’ve found to deal with bad dreams is to practice with my imagination while I’m awake. Just imagine yourself like you’re the star of your own crazy anime. Doing whatever feels the most ‘right’ and ‘natural’ for yourself. That way, you go to sleep…
Ah, a relaxing walk down the street. Oh dear. A bunch of angry guys with bats with nails in them. They want to beat me up? Alright. *casually picks up a parked stretch limo by it’s front axle and sets it on shoulder* Now I’ve got something to beat -them- up with.
… I woke up just as I was starting my first swing, so, can’t tell ya how it turned out.
Sorry Selkie, help doesn’t always feel good. One of the biggest things people need to get there head around with mental heath and such is its pretty much like a burn scar. it may fade a bit but its always there its going to be super sensitive and not fun to look at but you can get the a place where its not a big deal anymore. Too many people get stuck in very bad coping mechanisms because there goal is to utterly remove the effects or avoid thinking about the problem all together. And Like treating a burn, that just makes things worse. Mental infections are just as bad a real ones.
Or, maybe they are worse. Lots of my infections just heal themselves without any intentional intervention of my conscious mind. Mental stuff, meh, always requires my full conscious and intentional intervention. Meh! Elementary school teachers; the root of most neuroses.
Ooof school teachers, my lived experienced makes me wish they had not abolished physical punishment. Being hit is a hell of a lot easier to parse then the continuous gasslighting and emotional manipulation.
Very very much depends. If hitting a student becomes too easy an answer, it starts getting used far too often.
Curious now what Amanda’s dreams are like. It seems Selkie isn’t the only one channeling Superman III.
I love how the co-parenting is depicted organically. like, rough patches and all, but they still figured it out pretty well over all.
Todd is very arguably the best dad in web comics. … with Blaine (Amber’s) and Tom (Annie’s dad) being, arguably, the worst (wurst?). (Exception made for Faye’s dad- he’s dead- …but I wish we had a resurrect spell, so we could kill him for what he did to Faye.)
Are you talking about QC, right? As far as what was shown, Faye’s dad was a decent father to her before he took his life. He had to be holding back some pretty big demons to be struggling with mental illness and not be taking it out on his family as many people do in those situations. I would not call that being a shitty parent (even though his death harmed the people who loved him), but it is terrible and tragic. I think it is actually worse when a parent chooses to take out their crazy crap via abusing their kids versus stepping out of the picture (be it suicide or just leaving)—especially if they know their children have other people who love them and will look out for them.
It’s good to see these two getting along. I worry for Andi, though. Her potential boss either is a excited to meet another runner (and Andi is reading the situation properly), or she has major issues with boundaries. Not sure if that is someone that would be awesome to work for if you have a kid.