Please don’t use cedar ashes in your cookies, folks.

This scene has gone through so many iterations it's insane. In the cruelest version, a version which probably borders on character-breaking in it's awfulness, Mari wrapped up the urn as a gift, with paper and bow and everything, and gave it to Andi during the gift exchange in front of everyone. Interestingly, every discarded variation has a common reason for not being used: I just can't see a feasible scenario where Mari would give Andi the urn or have this conversation in front of the girls.