Oh crap, after a while of checking daily and forgetting it was on hiatus, I forgot to check for a week… anyways, welcome back Selkie, I missed you, (you too Dave).
Well, from a personal experience standpoint, not everyone has a focus on making sure they invite relatives or friends to their wedding, or have it done on reasonable dates or locations. I only made it to one of my cousins weddings (my dad is one of seven kids and my mom is one of three). They aren’t all married yet, but the majority of them now live across the country from me, so the probability of getting an invite with such a long distance relationship along with affording the plane ticket there is very low. If you grow up, go to school, and get a job all in the same area, you will be more likely to go to a friend’s wedding, but moving tends to cause issues one way or another (eg: time off work, travel costs, kids, growing apart, etc).
Now, I am the type of person that would be perfectly fine with the wedding reception basically turning into a big old family reunion and the fun of getting to see my grandma’s cousins’ kids and the like, but that is how my mom’s side is (older generations were all very close). I know that for others, things like the venue or food/alcohol are more important (or consider a family reunion to be a separate event if that’s better phrasing). To be honest, even with how close my mom’s generation of cousins is with each other, I am not sure how eager mine would be to come if I had a wedding and invited them. Considering how difficult it is to meet them around holidays when they are in town visiting their parents and I ask if we can get together to catch up, I really don’t think that the motivation is there on their end. They are better than my cousin on my dad’s side who wanted to get married in Europe and then covid hit. That just hurt on several levels.
Yeah. Growing up as the sole member of her species may have left her with a few problematic foundational beliefs about her identity and her role in society.
Heh, she might be in for a big surprise when she grows up, one of the gags that Collegehumor did atleast twice, was young adults being invited to too many weddings.
Hmm. A good balance, Grandpa.
Introduce the possibility that she might choose to be married in the future, but don’t imply it’s mandatory, nor stamp out any of her 9 year old dreams.
No need to change her mind; she’ll most likely do that on her own, in her own time.
Oh crap, after a while of checking daily and forgetting it was on hiatus, I forgot to check for a week… anyways, welcome back Selkie, I missed you, (you too Dave).
the only wedding she’ll ever see in her life…
Well, from a personal experience standpoint, not everyone has a focus on making sure they invite relatives or friends to their wedding, or have it done on reasonable dates or locations. I only made it to one of my cousins weddings (my dad is one of seven kids and my mom is one of three). They aren’t all married yet, but the majority of them now live across the country from me, so the probability of getting an invite with such a long distance relationship along with affording the plane ticket there is very low. If you grow up, go to school, and get a job all in the same area, you will be more likely to go to a friend’s wedding, but moving tends to cause issues one way or another (eg: time off work, travel costs, kids, growing apart, etc).
Now, I am the type of person that would be perfectly fine with the wedding reception basically turning into a big old family reunion and the fun of getting to see my grandma’s cousins’ kids and the like, but that is how my mom’s side is (older generations were all very close). I know that for others, things like the venue or food/alcohol are more important (or consider a family reunion to be a separate event if that’s better phrasing). To be honest, even with how close my mom’s generation of cousins is with each other, I am not sure how eager mine would be to come if I had a wedding and invited them. Considering how difficult it is to meet them around holidays when they are in town visiting their parents and I ask if we can get together to catch up, I really don’t think that the motivation is there on their end. They are better than my cousin on my dad’s side who wanted to get married in Europe and then covid hit. That just hurt on several levels.
Yeah. Growing up as the sole member of her species may have left her with a few problematic foundational beliefs about her identity and her role in society.
Heh, she might be in for a big surprise when she grows up, one of the gags that Collegehumor did atleast twice, was young adults being invited to too many weddings.
Hmm. A good balance, Grandpa.
Introduce the possibility that she might choose to be married in the future, but don’t imply it’s mandatory, nor stamp out any of her 9 year old dreams.
No need to change her mind; she’ll most likely do that on her own, in her own time.