Actually it’s perfectly reasonable to hold grudges, including when you are an adult, this includes if someone else made your life a living hell throughout your childhood. That being said, it’s a good thing that everyone is making amends now when they’re kids.
It’s understandable, sure, but it’s not beneficial to you.
Avoiding someone harmful and breaking contact (or taking steps to ensure you can do that) are sensible and reasonable. Hating them and plotting their demise, endlessly fantasizing about hurting them while you lay awake at night… these things are toxic to you, and hurts them not the slightest bit. It’s letting them live rent-free in your head, when they are the most unwelcome person their imaginable.
There’s unreasonably not forgiving someone, and then there’s self respect. You don’t need to constantly think about someone you hate, but you still have the right to hold your childhood against them if you meet them even years later. For some reason media is constantly peddling “forgive and forget” when it comes to being bullied, often in situations when it doesn’t fit and never advice about what to actually do about the bully. Yes forgiveness is important but that doesn’t mean that self respect isn’t. Neither extreme is a good thing, and if we just mindlessly follow this narrative that not forgiving someone makes you the bad guy then all we’re accomplishing is making a tyrannical society divided between the forgivers and the forgivees.
“Speak softly…”
That might not work if the cannon causes ear ringing.
Roosevelt updated!
I like the way she’s going with this…(but no doomsday cannon please, Selkie XD)
It’s always good to have a safety plan.
Always have a backup plan. Even if it does destroy the world.
I cannot fault her logic. having a doomsday weapon is pretty awesome
Actually it’s perfectly reasonable to hold grudges, including when you are an adult, this includes if someone else made your life a living hell throughout your childhood. That being said, it’s a good thing that everyone is making amends now when they’re kids.
It’s understandable, sure, but it’s not beneficial to you.
Avoiding someone harmful and breaking contact (or taking steps to ensure you can do that) are sensible and reasonable. Hating them and plotting their demise, endlessly fantasizing about hurting them while you lay awake at night… these things are toxic to you, and hurts them not the slightest bit. It’s letting them live rent-free in your head, when they are the most unwelcome person their imaginable.
There’s unreasonably not forgiving someone, and then there’s self respect. You don’t need to constantly think about someone you hate, but you still have the right to hold your childhood against them if you meet them even years later. For some reason media is constantly peddling “forgive and forget” when it comes to being bullied, often in situations when it doesn’t fit and never advice about what to actually do about the bully. Yes forgiveness is important but that doesn’t mean that self respect isn’t. Neither extreme is a good thing, and if we just mindlessly follow this narrative that not forgiving someone makes you the bad guy then all we’re accomplishing is making a tyrannical society divided between the forgivers and the forgivees.
Thanks for replying to me, I was worried that noone would notice what I said.